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Black People Getting Money

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In just over a year into our @Googleorg partnership with @GoodwillIntl, we've helped a quarter of a million Americans learn new digital skills, and 27,000 people find a job. #GrowWithGoogle https://t.co/tfqxKixJmh

— Sundar Pichai (@sundarpichai) April 10, 2019

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She Leads Africa with all the #wisdom

"It doesn't matter who you used to be. All that matters is who you are willing to become." - Carol Motolo. pic.twitter.com/EiJOapvIlD

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"Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life." pic.twitter.com/vb3i3LWLyu

— She Leads Africa (@SheLeadsAfrica) February 11, 2019

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“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
― Mahatma Gandhi pic.twitter.com/j95cyDcTqo

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Finding sanity in an insane time

It's easy to blame ourselves for not feeling 100% in our minds, but some of the causes of mental unwellness have to do with large systemic problems in our societies.
- The School of Life: How the Modern World Makes Us Mentally Ill

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Happiness notes

"Pleasure isn't the opposite of work; it's a key ingredient for successful work."

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Earning and Ego in the African family

Long time ago in a galaxy far, far, away...
Not really :)
Men hunted, gathered, warred, and brought home an alien sliced and salted bit of pig meat called bacon.
Women cooked this thing, cleaned house meticulously, supported man unflinchingly, all the while dressed neatly and attractively in mellow yellow shirt and single-row of pearls.
Everyone lived happily ever after.

Nowadays, we have a new fable: 
Women march off to work and often win a delightful prize called bread, which many in these parts would rather have than bacon.

As before, men are free to hunt, gather, war, and bring home various cuts of meat, bearing in mind that physicians say fish and lean beef, as part of a low-fat, low sodium diet, are better for overall health.
 Now,
winning great quantities of bread is a good thing UNLESS this winner is a married woman.  Marriage interacts with earning in such a way that everybody does not live happily ever after.

Homie, we still cool? . . .  No, we are definitely not cool.

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And what can be done?
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Tell Me Your Dream

He travelled across the world and asked:

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You tell me your dream, and I'll tell you mine - is a classic song and jazz favourite.  

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Wikipedia : Simple Living

Simple living encompasses a number of different voluntary practices to simplify one's lifestyle.

• These may include reducing one's possessions, generally referred to as Minimalism, or increasing self-sufficiency, for example.
• Simple living may be characterized by individuals being satisfied with what they have rather than want.^[1][2]
• Although asceticism generally promotes living simply and refraining from luxury and indulgence, not all proponents of simple living are ascetics.^[3]
• Simple living is distinct from those living in forced poverty, as it is a voluntary lifestyle choice.

 

Mahatma Gandhi spinning yarn in 1942. Gandhi believed in a life of simplicity and self-sufficiency.

• Adherents may choose simple living for a variety of personal reasons, such as spirituality, health, increase in quality time for family and friends, work–life balance, personal taste, frugality, or reducing stress.
• Simple living can also be a reaction to materialism and conspicuous consumption. 
• Some cite socio-political goals aligned with the anti-consumerist or anti-war movements, including conservation, degrowth, social justice, ethnic diversity and tax resistance.^[4]

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Money and anxiety - Real talk about fear, work, love, and motivation.

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The Gainfully Employed

"The difference between settling for a job and seeking to be employed can be likened to the difference between existing and living.  

The one contented with a job is comfortable with merely drifting through life, satisfying his or her immediate wants and perhaps the future ones.  
This is called existing.  
Those who settle for this become slaves at their professions.  

However, those who are gainfully employed are living their lives.  
They express their true self and they ultimately become stakeholders in their chosen fields of work.  
They are princes in their professions, growing up to become kings and possessors of those professions.  

A person who has a focus on a job follows the trends of the time.  
Whatever is in vogue and pays more is their veritable choice.  
They do not care about doing work they really desire to do.  
They flow with the tide and instead of living are being lived.  
They strive to compete with other people in their work, and they fail to a large extent.  
This is because they are not in their own territories..."

- in Don't Settle for a Job; Be Gainfully Employed,
by 'Fikayo Oyewale

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I'm learning from this book.  Here is another quote I just found in it:

"One should guard against preaching to young people success in the customary form as the main aim in life.  The most important motive for work in school and in life is pleasure in work, pleasure in its result, and the knowledge of the value of the result to the community." 

- Albert Einstein.

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